“What we have here is a failure to communicate.” said the nasty prison warden in Cool Hand Luke – so true it seems. Why do we talk past each other so much?  Why do dialogues so quickly become duelling monologues, debate turn into debunk, speech into screech?  Books such as Daniel Kahneman’s 'Thinking, Fast and Slow' are filled with impressive experimental verifications that we often do not reason well; that our thinking is hobbled by an array of cognitive biases and that we are prone to making lazy intuitive judgments that we do not trouble to verify [...]